Is A Next Level Human Pro-Life or Pro-Choice?
My closest friends & I are always debating, thinking and discussing. When we see a charged social issue start flooding the media, we try to ask questions rather than make judgements.
So, when the latest debate on abortion exploded I was not surprised to get a text from a friend; “jade, is a Next Le...
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Eat Less, Exercise Less (ELEL)- Episode 32
The eat less, exercise less protocol, or ELEL for short, is one of the four “metabolic toggles” one can use to work with their metabolism. It is very restorative protocol designed to take stress off of the metabolic system. This podcasts covers the philosophy, background and specific details of th...
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Metabolic Flexibility (Part 2)- Episode 31
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In part 2 of this series on Metabolic Flexibility different approaches to metabolic flexibility are covered. The metabolism can be kept flexible by switching diet and exercise regimes, cycling the diet repeatedly and/or using special dietary tools like ketodiets, bodybuilding diets, intermitten...
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Metabolic Flexibility (Part 1)- Episode 30
 Metabolic flexibility is the ability to switch from one fuel to the other quickly based on food availability and fuel demand. You don't want a fast metabolism, you want a flexible metabolism instead. You don't want Usain Bolt unless he can jump hurdles, do handstands, and juggle flaming swords to...
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Insulin Resistance & Sensitivity- Episode 29
Insulin and insulin resistance is often misunderstood. You can be resistant to insulin or sensitive to it in different tissues. Not only that, but going too low carb may contribute to the problem in some people due to cortisol’s effects on insulin sensitivity. This podcast addresses the less talke...
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Marijuana & Weight Lifting, Weight Loss & Fitness
It's 2011 and I'm walking down the street in Amsterdam. I've walked a mere four blocks from where I'd just purchased a hundred dollars in Belgium chocolates.
I reach down to get another piece... and they're gone. I turn to my friends and frantically say, "What happened to my chocolates?! Did you ta...
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Alcohol & Weight Lifting, Weight Loss & Fitness
Flashback to 1995. I'm 22 years old. I study biochemistry in the mornings and I train myself and a few clients in the afternoons. After 9 PM I'm a bartender at one of the hottest bars at North Carolina State University. The place was called La Cantina. It was ranked by Playboy as one of the best col...
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Stop Caring What People Think: How To.
There is someone’s approval you seek, and it drives you crazy that he/she won’t give it to you. I know what that is like. Historically I have cared little about what others thought about me. That’s probably because I had two parents who loved me unconditionally and siblings who have always had my ba...
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Next Level Human: How To Become One.
The steps to becoming a next level human:
Step 1: Know Yourself (Verum Videre)
To know thyself is not just to study thyself, but to also see through the stories you are trapped inside. Stories told by your culture, stories you created as a child; stories of hurt, fear and failure. To know thyself ...
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What Kind Of Human Are You?
We all have a base-level self, and mine still comes out on occasion. It happens very rarely and only with certain people, but it happens none-the-less.
I don’t like when it happens, but I am grateful to be self-aware enough to catch it. One of my favorite quotes by Bruce Lee is, “To know thyself is...
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Next-Level Relationships. 10 Ways To Vet The People In Your Life
I am ordering a coffee at a local coffee shop. A woman walks in and says to another woman standing in line behind me, “Hey sugar! How arrrrrrre you?”
Southerners like to draw out their words like that, and they love to use words like sugar, honey and darling (daaarlin if you are trying to say it wi...
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Heart Broken? Why You Fall So Hard, How To Move on
Let me share a private message I received some months back from a woman in her late twenties.  I am partly paraphrasing and part quoting.  The message was this:
“You don’t know me, but I have been a long-time follower of yours. I did not realize you work in the realm of relationships, but I recentl...
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Sleep, Hunger, Mood, Energy, Cravings: Is Your SHMEC in check?
Is Your SHMEC in Check?
It is true that in order to lose weight — and more specifically, fat — you do need to have a caloric deficit. But, a low-calorie diet does not lead to a balanced and stable metabolism. In fact, it leads to the reverse.
Taking a calorie-first approach by following the “eat l...
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Is Your HEC in Check? Hormones Vs. Calories
Which matters more, calories or hormones? Not an easy question right? Calories influence hormones and hormones influence calories.
The truth is: both matter.
From my perspective, hormones matter more because when properly controlled, the hormonal influences on metabolism reduce and even eliminate ...
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Weight Loss vs Fat Loss: Key Distinctions
Fat loss requires a very different thought process compared to weight loss. These distinctions get lost on many people, yet are perhaps the most important concepts to understand in switching to a fat loss mindset. Here are the 5 key thought differences between followers of the fat loss lifestyle and...
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Male Attractiveness: The Female Perspective.
I am known as a health fitness guy.  It is where I have published most of my work.  What many don’t know is that I have been working in the field of self-help and self-development for just as long.  It is equally a passion and an expertise of mine.
One of my main areas of interest is relationships ...
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The Mindset, Body Change Habit
Have you ever heard the saying, “change your mind, change your body?” You know it works the other way too,right?
I know this is a concept that gets by many people. They have heard the idea, but just don’t get it.  I know, because I, too, had heard the idea and agreed in theory, but did not really h...
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Delusion and the Pursuit of Personal Growth
I often talk about delusion as a major block to being able to see the world, and ourselves, clearly.
The official definition of delusion is, “a belief that is firmly maintained despite being thoroughly contradicted by fact or reality.”
Delusion is a natural tendency of the human mind for two very ...
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No More Mr. Nice Guy: Why She Calls You A Pussy
It has been said that, “good guys finish last.” I am not a fan of these “rule of thumb” statements. They rarely represent the entire story, yet often get it completely wrong.
That being said, there are some very important points men, who are “good guys,” should consider.  And for women, it may be w...
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“What Should I Do About This Girl I Like?” Dating Advice For Guys
The other day I was walking down Broadway Street in Santa Monica, California with a friend of mine who drove up to visit from San Diego. If you walk west on Broadway you will run right into the Santa Monica pier. From my apartment the walk is just under a mile, which gave us plenty of time to talk.
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Why I am a racist, and you are too.
Imagine a bunch of Italian Americans sitting around a large dining room table with a million different food items spread out in front of them: A big bowl of bread, a giant 10L bottle of olive oil, two different kinds of pasta, a large salad, which no one is eating. A bowl of meatballs, a bigger one ...
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Why Your Relationship Sucks & How To Make It Work
I am just going to say this from the start. You may not like this blog.  It is going to be in your face a bit and if you don’t like the word fuck, stop reading now.  I don’t care if it is offensive, because it needs to be said.
Today’s relationship advice is so bad that it leaves people confused at...
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My Code Of Conduct: 10 Behaviors Of An Enviable Man
The last few years have not been easy ones for me. I lost my way. I got distracted.  I chased all the wrong things and trusted all the wrong people.  I did not completely live up to the man I have always wanted to be. I had no defined code of conduct.
But then that is life and there is nothing but ...
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Gossip. The Relationship Killer….Or Not?
“I can’t believe you are sitting around talking shit about me!”
“What?” I said. “I would never do that. I was sticking up for you. I would never let someone disparage you. Anytime I have heard anyone say something about you, I came to your defense.”
This was one of those “Twilight Zone” moments wi...
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Shame, Guilt And The Way Back
I am not presently seeing any life-coaching clients. It’s a good thing too, because I have been deeply involved in coaching with three of my friends who are going through issues in their personal romantic lives.
These people are close to me and I know will be reading this blog. In fact, they are th...
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Our Stories: Why We Have Them And Where They Come From
We humans operate from groups of stories we have told ourselves over the years. These stories control us in almost every way because they define how we see the world, and our place in it. Ironically, very few of these stories were actually authored by us. Instead they were unconsciously adopted from...
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How To Be Productive. Know Your Ultradian Rhythms
Do you know what an ultradian rhythm is? it is the natural fluctuation in your energy batteries through the day. We humans have periods of time where we are capable of high energy output and focus, but we also have time periods where our battery charge is much lower. This is called the ultradian rhy...
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The Morpheus Effect: Change Yourself To Change The World
I am sitting at the dining room table with my mother and father and 3 siblings.  I am probably six years old.  My two brothers, Kimo and Keoni, are 11 and 9.  My sister Jodi is 8.  I don’t know what the conversation is about, but the message my mother and father gave was loud and clear. “Kids, you c...
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Distance, Persistence and Resistance: How to Handle Psychological Sabotage.
Let’s say you’re talking to a friend or family member. Someone close to you. A person you love dearly.
Through the conversation, something just feels wrong.  In fact, let’s say it often feels wrong with this particular person.
You tell them how you feel about them. Â You tell them you love them. Â M...
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How To Find Your Passion? Create It Instead
When I was in high school I remember having a conversation with my father. He and my mother had just discovered that I had missed over 50 days of school my junior year. He was distraught, to say the least, although he and my mom (mostly my mom) covered for me with the school, so I did not get in tro...
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Fuck Your Feelings…….And Mine Too
You are having a conversation with a friend. He/She is going on and on about something he/she feels passionate about. You don’t completely agree and can see where he/she is mistaken in your mind.
You nod your head in agreement, while internally you think, “I don’t agree with this.” or, “Here they g...
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Time? Who’s got it?: Why it’s important to make time to find yourself.
Many of us will go to great lengths to avoid spending time with ourselves. I have always found it the most powerful, educational and energizing thing I can do.
One of my favorite times of the day is the morning. I often get up extra early, not because I am working but, because I love the stillness…...
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Giver or Taker: Boundaries or Baggage: Who controls your relationships?
It may surprise you to know that studies on success and happiness show “givers” to fare worse than anyone else. They are often the least successful and happy.However, they are also the most happy and successful of all people. Are you scratching your head wondering how both things can be true?
There...
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From Lost-love to Self-love: A New Mindset.
He wanted the relationship to continue; She didn’t. She chose someone else. It hurt. He didn’t understand.
Romantic rejection is one thing, but being rejected as a friend too. That is even more painful
“No I can’t see you for coffee.”
“No I am busy.”
“My life is just too hectic.”
Yet, she had t...
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Changing Your Life? Write Your Story
Socrates was pretty much a badass. At a time when the Greek way was to do everything by committee and consensus of the popular vote, he was the first to question the logic. He recognized that “group think” was a danger to the truth. He believed that humans, by their very nature, were lazy thinkers a...
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Breakups, Unrequited love & Romantic Loss: How To Get Over it & Move On
Some of the issues you deal with as a life coach are in the realm of romantic relationships, and more specifically, hurt and loss in romantic relationships. One of the most difficult obstacles to overcome as a human is unrequited love, the idea that you love and adore somebody who does not reciproca...
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The Power Statement: The Elevator Pitch In One to Two Sentences
You may not know this about me, but I am a bit of an introvert. I like being in the party but not part of it. This could be the reason I bartended in undergrad and medical school. Tending bar allowed me to people watch, something I love.
I am fascinated by human behavior and this allowed me to be ...
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Think Differently: How To Beat Your Hidden Belief System
Limits are almost all self-imposed. We humans construct a psychological box of beliefs and behaviors. This box represents the way we perceive the world. Is the world safe or not? Are women, or men, to be trusted? Does money represent possibility or evil? Do we constantly think we are the smartest pe...
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Habitual Liar? Bullshitter? Avoider? Here is what to do…
We had been through a lot together. The kind of thing where you are the only two in the world who know what is going on and that connection is what binds you to each other in the strongest of ways. The trust is just there. The loyalty is not questioned. That is why what happened ripped me up inside....
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Wisdom: The Third Superpower.
The third power is Wisdom. The first two powers, Perception & Ownership, I covered in previous blogs HERE, HERE and HERE.
Let’s define Wisdom. There is information. This you gather from your senses and various sources (blogs, books, school, etc). But information is just another form of noise and d...
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Engagement: The Power Of Taking Decisive Action
This is part of a 6-part series called the “6-Powers.”  To read the previous blogs & complete the series they can be found here:
Perception BlogOwnership Blog:  Part 1 and Part 2Wisdom Blog
Engagement: The Fourth Power.
I was about 3 or 4 years old the day I learned how to swim. I remember it vi...
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Resolve: The Fifth Power. How To Embrace Failure & Conquer Your Fears
This blog is part of series of blogs on the 6 Powers, the key insights and action steps to creating the life you dream of.
Resolve is the fifth and final superpower. The other four superpowers: Perception, your ability to perceive the world and your place in it accurately; Ownership (part 1 and par...
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The Worst Best Friend: Why Everyone Should Have One.
I am on the phone with my friend. Our voices are raised and we are beyond frustrated, bordering on angry. It seems as if we don’t give a shit about each other. In my head, I am like “Fuck this, I don’t even know if I like this person!!”
I am simply dumfounded they can see me the way they do. I ha...
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High Performance, Energy and Focus: The 3 Batteries
You ever wonder why you sometimes feel down, unable to focus, physically exhausted without high performance? I went through a stage early on in my fitness business where I could not overcome procrastination, was feeling uncharacteristically depressed and lost my motivation for physical exercise (my ...
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Love and Marriage: How To Build Healthy Romantic Relationships
Would You rather listen? Get the unedited blog audio instead? Click the link below:
Free Unedited Blog Audio File Many people are familiar with the book, The Five Love Languages, which is a great framework for understanding how to show people affection and love. We have this idea that we should “do...
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Ownership: The Second Superpower. Personal Responsibility
This blog is the second part of my five-part series on the 5 powers (lets see if I can actually get all of them done ? ). I am currently finishing up my book on the 5 powers that I hope will be available for purchase early next year (2016).
To read part 1, the first power of perception, click HERE...
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Ownership: The Second Superpower. Personal Responsibility Part 2
This is part 2 of a two part series. Â To read Part 1Â CLICKÂ HERE
The “Will To Meaning”
What do you stand for? Can your friends trust you? Can you trust yourself? Do you know what you want your life to mean? What legacy do you want to leave behind?
The great psychologist and holocaust survivor Vi...
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The Honor Code: Choosing What You Stand For
Part of our human struggle comes from our lack of certainty about who we are and what we want. You don’t get to feel solid and sure if you are just “winging it.” Waiting for the right time or situation more often than not leads to waiting forever.
Life requires real choices and real sacrifice. If y...
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Perception: The 1st Superpower
It seems to me that the most pervasive belief related to changing anything is that people can’t change. In some ways, it does make sense. Research shows that humans crave certainty above all else.  Research also makes it clear that when times get stressful, or busy, we default back to our habitual b...
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The Honor Code: Choosing What You Stand For
Part of our human struggle comes from our lack of certainty about who we are and what we want. You don’t get to feel solid and sure if you are just “winging it.” Waiting for the right time or situation more often than not leads to waiting forever.
Life requires real choices and real sacrifice. If y...
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